What Happened When I Deleted Facebook
Facebook started out as a fun way to contact old friends and share pictures with them and for a while, it was fun. But then something terrible happened and it became a place to shout political opinions and religious beliefs at others without having to look into their face at the damage being caused. I became aware, through time, of how Facebook users are being manipulated through marketing and propaganda. It just isn’t that fun anymore.
It’s been more than a year since I deleted my Facebook and Snapchat accounts. I was on Facebook all the time, to the point where I was just seeing the same posts over and over. I would find myself yelling at my kids just for having fun and being themselves because they were disturbing my social media time. Without even knowing it, I was giving more of myself to strangers on the internet then I was to the people who actually matter to me. It felt like an addiction that was just as bad as smoking.
At first, I found the idea of leaving facebook daunting. I was, of course, worried that I would be left out of the conversation and that I would lose contact with some friends. I already knew before I deleted facebook that there was no way I had over 400ish people who truly care about me in the world. Duh, right? I feel like I really know now not only who cares about me, but also who I care about and am willing to give my time and energy. I can be more genuine with those that are my friends and do things that really do strengthen the relationship. It reminded me that a like or comment on Facebook is not the same as real friendship.
Being without it wasn’t easy, just like it is when breaking any addiction. I was bored and couldn’t remember how I had filled my time before Facebook. I had snapchat for a while where I only had 8 “friends.” But even with that, I could see that I was recording every part of my life for someone else to watch. Is that truly living and experiencing life? In my humble opinion, no. It wasn’t long before I stopped using that too.
The hardest part was realizing how much free time I had and figuring out what to do with it. I cleaned my house until it sparkled. Then I got more into painting and sketching and it started taking up more and more of that free time. I also started reading more. I have always been an avid reader but with Facebook and other social media, I didn’t really make time for that part of myself. It was great basically figuring out who I am all over again and I felt better about my relationship with myself.
We all know what a time suck Facebook can be. It only makes sense that I find that I am more organized and can get more done in a day. I also spend a lot more time with my husband and kids. I get to look into their faces and hear their amazing conversations and see who they really are. I am truly present. We have a family game night, art night and have just added Dungeons and Dragons to our family activities. Without social media, we are a stronger, happier family.
When I finally picked my head up from my phone, I could see that the whole time I had been missing out! Life is short and when mine ends, I want to know I left positive real-life memories for my family.
Are you thinking about deleting your Facebook? Have you already left Facebook? What is your experience?