What Happened When I Deleted Facebook

What Happened When I Deleted Facebook

By admin 3 Comments April 8, 2019

Facebook started out as a fun way to contact old friends and share pictures with them and for a while, it was fun.  But then something terrible happened and it became a place to shout political opinions and religious beliefs at others without having to look into their face at the damage being caused.  I became aware, through time, of how Facebook users are being manipulated through marketing and propaganda. It just isn’t that fun anymore.

It’s been more than a year since I deleted my Facebook and Snapchat accounts.  I was on Facebook all the time, to the point where I was just seeing the same posts over and over.  I would find myself yelling at my kids just for having fun and being themselves because they were disturbing my social media time.  Without even knowing it, I was giving more of myself to strangers on the internet then I was to the people who actually matter to me.  It felt like an addiction that was just as bad as smoking.

At first, I found the idea of leaving facebook daunting.  I was, of course, worried that I would be left out of the conversation and that I would lose contact with some friends.  I already knew before I deleted facebook that there was no way I had over 400ish people who truly care about me in the world.  Duh, right? I feel like I really know now not only who cares about me, but also who I care about and am willing to give my time and energy.  I can be more genuine with those that are my friends and do things that really do strengthen the relationship. It reminded me that a like or comment on Facebook is not the same as real friendship.  

Being without it wasn’t easy, just like it is when breaking any addiction.  I was bored and couldn’t remember how I had filled my time before Facebook. I had snapchat for a while where I only had 8 “friends.”  But even with that, I could see that I was recording every part of my life for someone else to watch. Is that truly living and experiencing life?  In my humble opinion, no. It wasn’t long before I stopped using that too.

The hardest part was realizing how much free time I had and figuring out what to do with it.  I cleaned my house until it sparkled. Then I got more into painting and sketching and it started taking up more and more of that free time.  I also started reading more. I have always been an avid reader but with Facebook and other social media, I didn’t really make time for that part of myself.  It was great basically figuring out who I am all over again and I felt better about my relationship with myself.

We all know what a time suck Facebook can be.  It only makes sense that I find that I am more organized and can get more done in a day.  I also spend a lot more time with my husband and kids. I get to look into their faces and hear their amazing conversations and see who they really are.   I am truly present. We have a family game night, art night and have just added Dungeons and Dragons to our family activities. Without social media, we are a stronger, happier family.

 When I finally picked my head up from my phone, I could see that the whole time I had been missing out!   Life is short and when mine ends, I want to know I left positive real-life memories for my family.

Are you thinking about deleting your Facebook?  Have you already left Facebook? What is your experience?

3 Comments found

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Heather Sherland

That was pretty powerful and true!

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    admin

    Thanks, Heather! I’m just trying to write my own personal truth :0)

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[…] It’s really hard to be yourself and forget about what everyone else thinks when you’re on Facebook where everyone is shouting their opinions about anything and everything.  Social media takes away our individuality and replaces it with group think. It is overwhelmingly flooded with marketing to get us to buy this product or vote for that political idea.  It is both blatantly in our faces and subtly between the lines. How can we know what our authentic thoughts and feelings are on any subject when we are so bombarded with other people’s thoughts?  You can read more about What Happened When I Deleted Facebook here. […]

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